Have you ever felt like everything around you is falling away? As though you have completely lost control of your life? You feel lost, sad, broken, but aren’t exactly sure what is bringing you down? The air around you consistently feels heavy and you constantly feel overwhelmed? Yet, at the same time your life is good. You have family and friends that love you. You are doing okay financially, you are able to pay your bills without much struggle, but you still feel as though something is missing. There is just something that places you in this place of dissatisfaction in your life.
Are you losing your mind? What could be wrong with you? You have a good life, enjoy your job, and love your family and friends. So what could it be?
Well, honestly, I recently went through something similar. I couldn’t pin point what the problem was, constantly looking for something to take it away. The uncertainty I felt was consuming me, dragging me further down. Seeing complaints and bitterness all over my Facebook timeline, or seeing the complete opposite of only the BEST part of someone’s life made me feel worse. Then hearing complaints and negativity from those around me physically and eventually hearing negative things coming from my mouth. All that ever exited my mouth was a complaint about something, noting was ever good enough for me.
At this point I realized that if I wanted anything about how I felt in my own life to change, then I would have to be willing to alter things within myself and my life. Negativity only attracts more negativity and stress. Stress creates overwhelm, overwhelm creates sadness, sadness creates the lack of motivation, and the lack of motivation creates feeling of being lost. So, to make these changes that were necessary I had to break down each area that got me where I was. Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy and it does NOT happen overnight. You just have to be open and willing to listen to your inner most deepest NEEDS. This is not about the things you want, other than the WANT to be happy in your life. By focusing on your NEEDS, your wants will change and become less.
First thing needed to help dig myself out of the hole I found myself in was to get motivated again. Motivated to live, not just breathe and survive. So, I started with working out again. This helped me drastically with my motivation to do more than just survive. It also helped with my sadness and feelings of despair. But, I still had other aspects to work on.
It was not time for me to reflect. I had to think back, back to when I truly felt happy and free. What was I doing then? How was my though process different? What did I believe and practice daily? THAT WAS IT!!! That was the major turning point for me. The key that was missing was my spirituality. I have always believed that there is more than what we physically see. I have seen it, heard it, and felt it. Somewhere I lost this belief, or shoved it away while I focused on what I thought was more important (which was everything but me). I used to meditate daily, do tarot readings for friends and openly allowed spirit in my life. All that got blocked, creating anxiety, fear, stress, and sadness. I had become someone I didn’t know. Someone sad and filled with hate, fear, and jealousy. Jealousy of everyone else who seemed to have what I no longer did, HAPPINESS.
So, the next move for me was to get back to my spiritual beliefs. To reconnect with what was more important to me once upon a time. This process has been the hardest and longest. I’m still a work in progress here. Although much has changed since I began this journey. I have begun to feel less stressed, less fear and anxiety, and have begun to attract more positive things into my life. Things have been slowly falling into place since I started this journey of happiness and finding myself once again. There is much work still needed, but I am happy with the transformation I have made thus far.
If you are finding yourself in a lonely, dark and sad place, don’t be afraid to reach out to someone. It is a lot of hard work, but it is definitely worth it. If you are looking to work with someone to help you through, I would love to work with you.
Life is hard, especially when you feel alone and don’t know where to start. So, why not allow someone to help you get started, so you too, can have a happier and more simple life experience this time around.